What is wrong with very high expectations?
OK, imagine this! You have extremely high expectations about everything: from the smallest to the most important thing. What does this seem like? We’d dare say a “bubble“. You live in a fantastic (and imaginary) world, where everything runs smoothly and you are the only one on the planet. You can do anything you like, right or wrong, normal or crazy.
Back to reality. Most of your bubble conditions are not there in true life. So you get huge bitter doses of disappointment every now and then. Crash boom bang! This is not sustainable. From extreme happiness (the imaginary one) to hard reality. Hey, these are the extremes and balance lies in the middle, right? This is the place of lagom!
How do the Nordic people manage expectations?
First things first. Expectations are not the same as goals. So, don’t get them wrong. They do have aspirations and high goals. It is just that they balance them. Repeat after us: lagom is not too little, not too much. Thumbs up! Likewise, the Swedes or Danes, for example, set their goals and expectations neither too high nor too low. In the middle. We’d say a little bit above what is the absolute minimum to expect.
So, if they achieve them or things turn out as expected, they get happy. And their self-confidence is boosted. If things go wrong, they do not get huge disappointment. It is their way of keeping things balanced.